CFD 135 Lecture Notes - Lecture 5: Casual Sex, Physical Attractiveness, Attachment Theory
10 Jun 2018
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CH 5 LOVE AND CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER
---Love and Commitment
-Love is viewed as the primary reason for getting and staying married
-Loving involves the acceptance of partners for themselves
-Loving requires empathy and commitment
-Commitment is characterized by a willingness to work through problems and conflicts as opposed to
calling it quits when problems arise; it involves consciously investing in the relationship.
---Love
-Marriages between individuals with a relatively secure attachment style that take place around age 25
and are between partners who grew up in intact families are the most likely to be satisfying and stable
-attachment styles are extremely important
---Defining love
-Committed lovers have fun together; they also share tedious times
-They express themselves freely
-The do’t see poles as idiatios that thei elatioship is oe
-They work to maintain the relationship
---Gender Differences in Love
-Though love is thought to be the domain of women, recent research suggests that some boys are
becoming less focused on casual sex and more on romance.
-Women are more resilient when it comes to love and breakups
-Despite gedeed epetatios, loe is ipotat ad eaigful to e. Roati ituals ae ofte
required of men
-Men fall in love more quickly
---Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
-Three components of love:
1. Intimacy- close, connected feelings
2. Passion- drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation
3. Commitment- the decision to love someone and maintain that love
-It is that complete love many strive to achieve in relationships
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---Attachment Theory and Loving Relationships
-A secure attachment style is associated with better prospects for a committed relationship
-An insecure/anxious attachment style etails fea of aadoet ith possile oseuees suh
as jealous o tig to otol oe’s pate
-An avoidant attachment style leads one to pass up or shun closeness or intimacy
---Mate Selection: The Process of Selecting a Committed Partner
-Positie attitudes aout the elatioship, oupled ith ealistiall positie assessets of a spouse’s
personality traits, are important to marital stability.
-Supportive interaction results in greater marital satisfaction
-Greater marital satisfaction, in turn, results in the greater likelihood of marital stability (staying
married)
---Minimizing Mate Selection Risk
-Letting go of misconceptions we may have about love and choosing a partner.
Common myths include:
-The right person will meet all my needs (Making a list)
-I can change my partner (Love conquers all, happily ever after)
-Love is a feeling
---Assortative Mating: A filtering process
-Individuals gradually filter those they think would not make the best spouse.
-Research has shown that people are willing to date and live with a wider range of individuals than they
would marry (assortative mating)
-Mate selection involves narrowing down possibilities until a suitable partner is found
---Homogamy: Narrowing the Pool of Eligibles
-People tend to marry people of similar race, age, education, religious background, and social class.
-The pool of eligile stats out lage ut is ade salle popiuit geogaphi aea, desied
demographic and social characteristics, and physical attraction, and personal and lifestyle factors
---Pool of Eligibles
-A group of individuals who, by background or birth, are considered most likely to make compatible
marriage partners
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Document Summary
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