CFD 135 Lecture 11: Ch 11 COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS
Ch. 11 COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES
--Family cohesion and conflict
Emotional bonding that couples and family members have towards one another
A family can have too much cohesion (an enmeshed family) or too little (a disengaged or disconnected
family)
Experts advise a balanced level of cohesion, one that combines a reasonable and mutually satisfying
degree of eotioal odig ith idiidual faily eers’ eed for autooy
--Characteristics of cohesive families
1. Communicate appreciation for one another
2. Have a high degree of commitment to the family group as a whole
3. Spend dinner time together, celebrate holidays and birthdays, and spend leisure time together
4. Are able to deal positively with crises
5. Have some spiritual orientation
6. Have positive communication patterns (taking time to talk and listen to each other, respect of
interest)
--Children, Family Cohesion, and Unresolved conflict
Close sibling relationships can provide helpful emotional and practical support over the life course
However, perceived differential treatment among siblings lead to sibling conflict and underlying
resentments that can linger into adulthood
Warm cohesion is generally better for children
Climate of unresolved marital conflict or parents that are depressed has negative effects on child
--As we make choices, communicating with children-How to talk so kids will listen
--Facts about families: Ten Rules for Successful relationships
1. Express love verbally
2. be physically affectionate
3. Express your appreciation
4. Help the relationship or family to become an emotional support system
5. Express your affection in material ways
6. Aept your faily eers’ shortoigs
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Document Summary
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