A PSY 450T Lecture Notes - Lecture 6: John Gottman, Allergen
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Rewards and costs: comparison levels, how to keep a relationship going. Fairness and deciding to stay with a person because it"s a good relationship. Talking about the relationship tests whether the relationship is a relationship. Expectations are based on parents relationship, social media, friends, values, past experiences (not fixed in time) People"s expectations in a relationship change over time. Everyone has their own priorities, some things are deal breakers even if everything else is great. Passion fading: people get used to things and take them for granted so relationships get less satisfying over time. Friends, social media, family all influence your alternative options. Comparison levels of investments: what you put into a relationship that you won"t get back when you leave. The worst relationships take the most effort with the least satisfaction because we want to justify our efforts/ investments.
