HDFS 1070 Lecture 15: Lecture Notes 11/9
23 Jan 2017
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Success or failure: winning and the four horsemen - a consistent characteristic of distressed couples maintaining the conflict lead to escalating conflict that leads to the erosion of intimacy, starting up conflict and. Criticism vs complaints - note on character attacks and global complaints identity attack, attacking them as a person, you"re inconsiderate . Complaints are about issues not the person, violation of your expectations, gives us an opportunity to talk about expectations in behavior. Stonewalling - withdrawal and apparent indifference towards the partner: emotional disengagement - a lack of positive affect. The best antidote for flooding is to take a break (but this does not mean going to separate rooms and preparing for another attack! Unsolvable problems arise from fundamental personality, cultural, religious differences, or essential needs of each partner. Both happy and unhappy couples have these types of disagreements but handle them different.
