Monday 30 September.
Attribution theory: your behavior will assume how prof will
Do I perceive as shit happens shit happens they couldn’t
Is it them or is it the circumstance that made it happen
Consensus: these guys who are inconsiderate
Did everyone show up on time or is everybody
If only the 1015 people are late…
Consistency: are they late for other classes are they late all the time or is the only time
If they are always like this
Conclusion: it’s them
If they are only late for this class
Conclusion: something happened crap happened it all got in the way
If in fact everybody was late and this is the only time
Conclusion: it’s the environment
Reason is it imp to make the decision because if we think it’s the environment we are
going to go easy on you but in fact its you
Positive attribution: they are the person I am going to deal with
When making a decision have a group
Attribution: job interview important will make it on small things
Human nature is a self serving bias : we have a choice when something goes bad or
something goes good to attribute
Things go well> give credit to ourselves
Things go bad> environment or other people
Gender and communication:
One gender more likely have a self serving where they blame environment
The other will
If things go well:
One gender will take credit Other will give credit
Which gender takes blames and gives away credit?
If things go bad:
One gender will blame the environment
The other will blame themselves
When things are going on and we are operating as normal and we are doing things
that we are not paying attention to..
People with autism was because they couldn’t process
People with autism cant scream out there is so much going out in their environment
Perception: way of actually funneling what we pay attention to and there is so much
going on and we only u see the tip of the ice berg
We cant pervice with other reasons…
There is all kinds of similui we pay attention to some and some we don’t
There is internal factor and external
External: motion do you tend to see that is moving or is still
If everything is moving that see the things are still
If everything is still we look at the things are moving
Intensity: we notice things that bright ., light, loud, stinky , size
Large things or small things? Depends on what’s different
So in an environment if we talk about what is different
That why perception is imp because we notice what’s different
We notice something is different,
We notice something that is unusual
So we are thing to buying a car? Should I buy a Toyota or Honda?
You keep looking for information then you buy a Toyota then you notice everything
same Toyota notice is good and notice Honda is bad,
We pay attention to things that are important to us
We perceive things that we are interested in
Our past experiences and expectation always
When we talk about communication
Verbal, visual, vocal
Interpersonal communication: me and you having a conversation
How many you take care you use words during communication?
What percentage in the communication is the word you use?
It’s about 510%
The rest is visual and vocal Hey good job!
Good job> abso
To be a good communicator is what we have to make sure all three are lined up
Because if you say one thing verbally, and the other are not lined up then people are
going to believe that you are non verbal all the time.
Common problem: sending the environment and receiving
In terms of gender and communication
We talk about style
Style is invisible …
If somebody looks like you then you are going to thing that they are the same as you
When we communicate with other people we assume that if they say something what
I wud mean if she said I would say
Is this accurate? No its not
There are 4 different communication styles
1. your gender> primary attribute .
you are walking towards somebody at the street we perceived them , we select
information and we make judgment
2. Age> if we can classify them we think we know a lot things about them
are they old or young
Who is better is better at judging expression just look at the face?
Who is able to communicate how they feel by using facial expression?
Who smiles more?
Sociobiology says what do dogs do? When they want to show they are not a threat?
They lie down … and when dogs do? They show their teeth…
Woman smile more because they want to show they are a threat..
Nature nurture argument
Are men and women really different physiologically
Arer men and women born the same and the environmental difference make them
How many think men and women are born the same?
There is an ability to make a change Three measurable gender differences:
2 bell curves men are more likely are at one end and female are more at other end.
Men are not verbal
Woman are more likely to be verbal
Men are more aggressive than woman..
Styles is invisible:
In terms of communication
Male and female sitting on a couch watching tv
Man gets up make himself a sandwich and comes back sits down
Woman she gets up and says thanks
She said the word thanks and the tone is shes not happy
The guy is not good at non verbal
The mind of male goes shes prolly hungry…
What can the guy do to fix the problem….
What does the woman think the guy is communicating
The guy doesn’t care about her…
The research says what does he does he communicated…. He was hungry… he was
Guys get confused … they says yes whatif she made herself a sandwich …
Woman style is hey I am making self a sandwich can I get you anything?
If a woman gets up makes herself a sandwich without asking you she is
What is she communicating? She is really angry with you…
Woman’s thinking goes like this
Men are taller than woman? How many offended? How many pissed off?
We know that there are bell curves…