HPRO 4412 Lecture 7: Attraction, Intimacy and Love
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Language is the basis of our knowing and understanding and experiencing the world. The language of love creates our understanding of love. We talk about love as something we"re in, something we fall into, something we fall out of. 106 - 135: extremely passionate/wildly, recklessly in love. 15 - 44: extremely cool/the thrill is gone. Matching phenomenon: partners are equal in terms of social and personal characteristics. If you think you are a 10 you get a 10; if you think you are a 1 you get a 1. Small talk questions we ask when we meet people. A state of intense physiological arousal, followed by application of a label "love" to that sensation. Risk of "misattribution of arousal" - physiological arousal from other stimuli is attributed to feelings of love. The application of love as close to an individuals understanding of love, as close as we can get. Love story: a story about what love should be like.