De beauvoir: authentic intimacy is between two autonomous, free individuals. Scruton: authentic intimacy is between two gendered individuals. Two individuals who exist in a culture; within the context of a culture. That tie keeps gender in the fundamental activities of human nature. We project ourselves into the world and make it meaningful, we make it erotic and sexual. The introduction of sex into desire is not without the most far-reaching consequences. In particular it introduces an element of universality into the object of desire. He or she is desired as a man or as a woman and it is from this thought that much of the phenomenology of desires arises (scruton, 76: embody external things. Embodies the french: gender is something i take in, but something i also represent, for scruton, these values are external values out in the world that we bring in the artist). body, merleau-ponty reverses this.