- Alternating between a narrow and wider point of
Major Ingredients of Caring view/framework
o Tending to a situation in isolation or considering a
wider perspective and connecting with other factors
Explicit vs. implicit knowledge
Knowing something is so vs. knowing how to do something
- Patience gives time – allowing the other person to find
Directly vs. indirectly knowing something themselves at their own pace.
- Impatience = reduces time and takes away from the other
Caring: - Giving them time and space
- Knowing their needs - Listening, being present = gives them time to think and feel
- Being able to respond appropriately - Tolerance – expression of respect = allows growth of the
- Knowing their capacities, capabilities, limitations
- Knowing your own abilities and limitations
- Requires explicit, implicit, direct and indirect knowledge of Honesty
- To be honest with oneself
- Barrier to caring is our tendency to limit caring and knowing - See the other as it is and now as I would like it to be or feel it
to what we can verbalize.
Knowledge: - Be able to respond to their changing needs
- Be honest with what you see. Not what you want to see.
- Explicit: you can tell what you know in words
- Idolatry: can’t care for them because you can respond to the
- Implicit: you are unable to express it in words person
- Direct knowledge: knowing something by experiencing it - See the person as they are and see yourself honestly too. – if
- Indirect knowledge: knowing something without direct you are doing things wrong or right.
- Being genuine about caring. Be yourself – because it takes
away from the person
- Make accommodations and vary methods to better do the Trust
task - Trust the other to grow in its own time and way
- Let them make mistakes and learn from them
Rhythms of Caring: - Show trust by following their lead
- Learn from the past