Week 3: Healthy Relationships & Sexuality: Making Commitments, Birth Control &
Managing Your Fertility
1. How much of face-to-face communication is non-verbal? Why is non-verbal
- up to 65% is non-verbal
2. List the three keys to good communication as discussed in your text and study guide;
provide a brief description of each one.
- learning appropriate self-disclosure (being able to open up and share info about your experience
in the appropriate time and to an appropriate degree), becoming a better listener, feedback
(constructive response to others’ self-disclosure)
3. Outline strategies to help you become a better listener. What points are important to
remember when speaking to ensure you are clear about what you are saying?
- state your concerns clearly; use “I” statements; be specific; make constructive requests; avoid
blaming, accusing, or belittling; ask for action
- we listen best when we believe the msg is important and relevant to us and when we are in the
mood to listen
4. Describe the differences in communication between men and women. What are
some implications of these differences?
- men tend to talk more and try to demonstrate competence by giving advice and solving
- women use listening skills more and look for understanding and closeness
5. Discuss beneficial strategies for conflict resolution.
- clarify the issue (take time to clarify how you feel); determine what each person wants; identify
alternatives (work together to find a solution); decide how to negotiate; solidify the agreements (review the plan verbally or write a contract); review and renegotiate (decide how long u will
6. Define behavioural interdependence, need fulfillment, and emotional availability.
- behavioural interdependence: the mutual impact that people have on each other as their lives
and daily activities become intertwined
- need fulfillment: intimate relationships fulfill psychological needs (e.g. need for approval,
intimacy, social integration, nurturing, being nurtured, reassurance or affirmation)
- emotional availability: ability to give to and receive from others emotionally without fear of
being hurt or rejected
7. How does M. Scott Peck define love?
- defines it as an act of the will rather than an act of desire; “the will to extend one’s self for the
purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth”
8. What needs are fulfilled through intimate relationships?
-need for approval, need for intimacy, need for social integration, need for nurturing, need for
being nurtured, and need for reassurance or affirmation of our own worth
9. Describe how the family unit has changed from the 1950s to today.
- stay at home mom, dad moving up corporate ladder, 2-3 well-adjusted children etc.
- accepted definition is any combo of two or more persons bound together over time by ties of
mutual consent, birth or adoption/placement etc.
10. What are the characteristics of friendship?
- enjoyment of each other’s company, acceptance, trust, respect, mutual assistance, confiding,
understanding, spontaneity (feel free to be themselves in the relationship)
11. Compare and contrast companionate and passionate love.
- companionate love: a secure, trusting attachment, similar to what we often feel for family
members or close friends - passionate love: a state of high arousal filled with the ecstasy of being loved or the agony of
12. What are the three ingredients of love according to the Triangular Theory of Love”?
- intimacy (emotional component; feelings of closeness), passion (the motivational component;
reflects romantic, sexual attraction), and decision/commitment (cognitive component, decisions
you make about being in love)
13. What are the stages in the process of “falling in love”?
- imprinting (our genetic predispositions & past experiences trigger romantic reaction),
attraction (neurochemicals produce feelings of euphoria and elation), attachment (endorphins
cause lovers to feel peaceful, secure and calm), production of oxytocin (“cuddle chemical”)
14. Identify common barriers to intimacy.
- lack of personal identity, emotional immaturity, poorly developed sense of responsibility, fear
of being hurt, low self-esteem, mishandled hostility, chronic “busyness”, a tendency to “parentify”
loved ones, a conflict of role expectations
15. Describe the common causes of jealously.
- overdependence on the relationship, high value on sexual exclusivity, severity of the threat, low
self-esteem, fear of losing control
16. What are the key components necessary for commitment?
- tolerance of each other; maintaining a sense of humour; effort, energy, and time need to be put
in the relationship; trust
17. Define trust. Describe the three fundamental elements of trust.
- trust: the degree of confidence felt in a relationship
- has three essential elements: predictability (predict your partner’s behaviours), dependability
(you can rely on your partner to give support in all situations), faith (you feel absolutely certain
about your partner’s intentions and behaviours) 18. What are the warning signs of a troubled relationship? What are the common
reasons for divorce?
- change in communication (for the worse); couple find themselves continually in the company
of others, spending time apart
- common reasons for divorce: lack of communication and cooperation between partners, unmet
expectations regarding marriage, differences in sexual needs
19. Differentiate between the terms sex and gender as defined by your text.
- sexual identity: determined by a complex interaction of genetic, physiological and
- gender: refers to your sense of masculinity or femininity
20. Identify the key structur