Nov 7, 2013
Stereotypes of Intimacy:
Band of brothers
Love ‘em and leave ‘em
Withholding and cautious
Playing the field
Intimate disclosure to BFF
Looking for her “Prince Charming”
Reserved for her ‘one and only’
Trends in Intimate Relationships:
Friends as Kin:
- Friends are taking the place of family members when it comes to providing instrumental and
expressive support - There is gender convergence in forming these friendships
Postponement of Marriage:
- Diversity and selectivity in marriage partners
Decoupling of Sex and Love:
- “friends with benefits” becoming more common
- Sex as recreation is more acceptable
Both men and women are more likely to confide personally and emotionally in a female friend.
What is sexuality?
Physical actions? Desires, fantasies, and imaginations? Extreme friendship? Libido or life force?
Sociology defines sexuality as a “social organization between and within genders”.
Judith Buller – Heterosexual Matrix (1990)
Defines sexuality as “male vs female”:
Physical Sex Male vs Female
Gender Performance Male vs Female