Involves focusing on the person who possesses what one desires. Involves feelings of hostility towards the person who possesses what one desires. Is often kept secret: longing involves focusing on the thing itself that one would like to possess. Lacks worry that others will misconstrue one"s feelings don"t worry about how people will judge us: envy vs. jealousy, envy , occurs when one lacks something enjoyed by another, experience is less intense than jealousy. Involves 3 (or more) people afraid someone will take something from you: occurs when one fears losing someone to another person or something, experience is more intense than envy, envy vs.