1)This type can, to some extent, cover those marriages that are not only truly arranged
but have been encouraged for familial, rational, or social reasons rather than for romantic
Reproductive-familial marriages are characterized by a lack of romanticism and
affectionate companionship and a focus on tradition or practicalities.
The spouses tend to lead largely separate lives. The extended family system is generally
important and family visits usually result in men and women sitting and conversing
2)The spouses interact with each other for sexual purposes but with a minimum of
feelings involved. Wives are faithful sexually while men may or may not be.
Spouses may have long conversations when alone or in the presence of their children. These
conversations are cordial, may involve a great deal of mutual respect, may be supportive,
but their focus tends to be on matters related to the family, children, business, jobs, and
forthcoming celebrations. Do not relate to mutual feelings nor do they involve discussions of
the relationship or negotiations concerning the household division of labor.
These marriages can also be conflict-habituated.
The Vital and Total Relationships
1)The essence of vital relationship is sharing and togetherness. Couples value their
relationship, regularly discuss it, and, when alone, often think about it.
When they encounter conflict, they resolve it rapidly and move on. Differences are settled
easily, even though with much discussion, but without verbal insults or humiliating put-
downs, as would take place among the conflict-habituated couples.
The vital marriage is not immune to divorce, although divorce is certainly less frequent
among this category. But when a long-term vital relationship.
2)Couples in total relationship form a minority and are the “stuff of novels”. They are
in many ways similar to the vital couples- the main difference being that there is more
sharing at the intellectual and psychological levels, and more discussions taking place for
the sake of sharing their interests verbally as physically.
Vital couples retain their individual existences; total couples melt into the same existence,
like identical twins.
3)These couples’ sexual relationships are very important and are expressed in a
multitude of settings and forms. Total couples define each other as lovers and best friends.