-One of the simplest determinants of interpersonal attraction is proximity.
-The people who, by change, you see and interact with most often are most likely to
become your friends and lovers
- The finding that the more we see and interact with people, the more likely they
are to become our friends
- Refer to the apartment/resident example
-the propinquity effect works because of familiarity, or also known as:
Mere Exposure Effect
- The finding that the more exposure we have to a stimulus, the more we like it.
- We see certain people a lot, and the more familiar they become, the more
- Of course if you feel negatively toward the person in question, then, not
surprisingly, the more exposure you have to him or her, the greater your dislike.
-propinquity may soon no longer be a prerequisite for the formation of relationships. This
is due to the existence of online communication via messenger or dating website or via
- we don’t become good friends with everyone who is near us in physical space
- The “fuel” is similarity- the match between our interests, background, attitudes,
and values of those of the other person.
- We are more attracted to people who are like us. (or are we attracted to those
who are our opposites? This is known as Complementarity)
- Similarity in terms of values and attitudes is an important predictor of attraction
in both friendships and romantic relationships.
- Not very pleasant to interact with someone who disagrees with us on
everything, but opposite when both the people feel the same way on important
issues, thus we find it more enjoyable to spend time with that person.
- When you like someone and that person also likes you in return.
- One of the prime determinants of interpersonal attraction.
- It can come about because of a self-fulfilling prophecy (led some of the
participants to believe that the person they are going to interact with likes you
while others were told that your partner doesn’t like you. Thus you go about
your conversation with this person knowing whether they like you or not. Conversations went well if told that the person liked you, and conversation
didn’t go well if told that the person didn’t like you).
- People with negative self-concepts tend to be skeptical about others actually
liking them and therefore do not necessarily reciprocate liking.
- Physical attraction is also a strong predictor of liking another person.
- Men attractiveness on women are faces with large eyes, small nose, small chin,
prominent cheekbones and narrow cheeks, high eyebrows, large pupils and big
- Women attractiveness on men are faces with large eyes, prominent cheekbones,
a large chin and a big smile.