Ways of thinking.
Just because parents act in a particular way, doesn't
mean child will (example: mother being feminist, but
not the daughter).
We’re getting information from our equals (peers) than
our superiors (parents).
Acting with others does change because there are other
people’s wills and influence and you have to
compromise. You act different when playing alone.
Just because someone is aggressive, doesn't mean they
fight with everyone. It depends on the interaction
(who’s in the group (1 or 2 people), expectation of
Boys grow up with boys and girls grow up with girls
until we have to or until adolescence. We are isolated
in our gender groups then have to get along after
having ignored and not interacted with each other.
This is hard to do with power differentials, lack of
experience, opposite stereotypes.
We are learning within our group how we are supposed
Infants don't show same sex preferences. This doesn't
happen from birth. Eventually we split apart (around 2
years when we start getting complex and brains can
differentiate, we develop skills like taking other
people’s point of view as we get older).
Pressure from peers is so strong you act like
strangers with opposite sex siblings.
This changes as games become more complex. Propensity
to break apart becomes more and more strong.
Same in many cultures whether they are industrial,
Primates play with same sex toys and people. They
don't have TV to look off.
Different experience in peer and socialization (girls-
intimate vs. boys-everyone). Boys: less alienating, more friendships, less
intimate, avoid people you don’t like in your group,
type of play is competitive group play, hierarchy
(because of big group), aggression, physical/loud
(have to be loud to drown out hooliganisms of games
playing), more acceptance, bullying, social role,
active, doesn't matter who comes in things stay the
Girls: 1-2 close best friends, deep emotional bonds,
imperative to cooperate and like each other, equality,
quiet, aggressive in a more social than physical way,
groups here are more intimate (more caring and
supportive since you know each other so
well)/personal/deep, more exclusive, problem solve,