November 26 – Meditation
“he who feels punctured must once have been a bubble” – Tao Te Ching
- couple with kid, emotionally stable, doesn’t listen as much to mom because mom is
more emotionally reactive, kid responds more instantly to dad’s instruction
- kid’s inner world got bounced around a bit. When good things happen, child gets good
emotional response from mom, vice versa for bad.
- For dad, when child acts positively, dad reacts positively and it feeds back. When child is
negative, dad doesn’t react much – child’s negativity runs up against a wall. Nurturing
positive side and meeting negativity with affection and love. Essentially you’re reinforcing
- TO SUM THAT UP: mom responds in kind to positive and negative, reactivity. So that
enforces both positive and negative system of child. Dad reinforces positive system in
similar way, but expression of negative emotion is absorbed into secure, stable,
fundamentally accepting system.
- This child/parent system is a metaphor for consciousness. The child being the outer
world. Accepting negative behaviour (operant condition effects)
- A skillful allocation of attention (attunement to outer world) should cultivate a more
harmonious relationship between yourself and world
- Most balanced and flexible state is one that’s open to everything
- Inner system minimally perturbed by outer state balance.
- Meditation is essentially embodying stillness, conscious direction of attention
- Your mind is like a jar of muddy water, and if you want it to be clear you could try to
shove the mud down to the bottom, but essentially you’re just stirring up the jar.
Essentially what you need to do is put the jar away on the shelf for the day and when
you come back the water will be more or less clear.
- The analogy shows the difference between TRYING to clear your mind, versus LETTING
your mind clear. You can’t just be like “okay I’m gonna achieve stillness now”. Have faith
and let your mind be, let it take you to a good place.
- The prototype posture of meditation is the physical embodiment of stability and
- Meditation is essentially doing nothing. Meeting all the negative waves that buffet you
around with stability. Negativity meets acceptance.
- Stop, observe, return. Focusing on your breath, when another thought comes along,
acknowledge that you have been distracted from your breath, observe, then return to the
breath. Acknowledge failure, choose response then return to task.
- The self is a tempestuous mess. Meditation can sometimes be a battle with yourself. But
the practice scaffolds you for dealing with issues later due to automatized stop observe
return practice. - Meditation is the study of yourself. Awareness of self
- Practicing engaging attention, and disengaging attention. Orienting, holding, letting go.
Confronting failure. More still, less pushed around by outside world.
- Consciousness moment to moment. Enjoy the duck of bliss, but when it’s gone, it’s
gone. Be able to let go of attachments.
- Stillness means trying to refrain from doing the things we normally do to solve problems.
- Think of compassion as a basic frame through which to see the world, not passivity.
Accepting that things ARE doesn’t mean not acting or feeling a response.
- Pitfall of meditation. If you meditate for a while, you are almost certainly gonna run into
your issues. By practice, when those nast