Jane english what do grown children owe their parents? . It is inappropriate to view obligations to one"s parents as a repaying a debt. An act is obligatory because on has asked - act is seen simply as a friendly gesture. Friendship is characterized by mutuality, not reciprocity. Motivated by love or mutual affection, not the prospects of repayment. There should be no expectations of repayment: taking one out to dinner is not expected to repay, 3 dinners vs 1 dinner inappropriate to say one owes" more. If a friendship ends, then a duty ends. However, if a friend is in need one ought to help if they have the ability and resources. The obligation remains the same if it were any other person in need. The notion of sacrifice is irrelevant in determining what if any obligations children have to their parents. Sacrifices do not provide the source of obligations to friends or parents.