Psychology 3724F/G Lecture Notes - Lecture 9: Paralanguage, Online Dating Service, Maner Sharif

• School: Western University
• Department: Psychology
• Course: Psychology 3724F/G
• Professor: Lorne Campbell

Document Summary

Suggests that couples should be open in their expressions of negative feelings and cognitions, direct in dealing with conflict, and never leave problems unresolved. Belief is that issues not dealt with will corrode the relationship. Suggests that open expression of negative feelings and cognitions is bad for the relationship, and one should demonstrate compromise, restraint, and accommodation to the partner"s behaviour. Couples should recognise those issues cannot be resolved and put them on the cognitive backburner. Exists when negative behaviour by one partner is met with intensified negative behaviour by the other. Meet a negative comment with a negative comment. You know your partner"s weaknesses and can use this against them, even though if you are asked before you probably wouldn"t think this would be a good idea. Exists when demanding communication from the person who wants change is responded to with defensive withdrawal. Criticizing, blaming, and pressuring the partner to change results in both hostile reactions and defensive withdrawal.