⁃ Is a process
⁃ The self is a temporal process (always changing)
⁃ Generally considered to happen first three years of life. - You begin to take social
shape. You respond to your environment and learn language.
⁃ Who am i?- always changing
⁃ Roles are always changing.
Socialization of the Self
SI favors nurture side of “nature vs. nurture”
How do we gain a social shape?
President Johnson- compensatory education, huge political attempt to equalize the
potential of poor blacks and white student.
IQ tests originally made by middle class whites, which asked questions from middle class
society. Ex Jello. What if you had never had Jello?
Who are we?
• Is there anyone being excluded, can we include anyone. “We” have a moral
responsibility to improve the human race and children. According to prof.
The self is continually being shaped. It is a life long process.
1)a process between the I and the Me (internal conversations with ourselves)
2)A result of that process – self as an object
Looking Glass Self (COOLEY)
- How we see ourselves reflected in the reactions of others.
⁃ We use other people as mirrors
⁃ Sometimes/ most of the time this is non verbal
⁃ The lens that people see you through is important, if you are from the same society it is
easy to understand – Prof told an African dating story. No one wanted to date the
American girl when she went to Africa because there she was too skinny. She
didn't understand the cultural perception of beauty and did not know what lens
people saw her through.
⁃ Any social situation can be like a hall of mirrors. Distort your image in different ways.
⁃ People want acceptance. They will change for acceptance.
Limits to the Self
1)The “I” and “ME” dialogue is an internal representation of conversations that are
possible or experienced. - Requires memory.
2)Mead says the voice in your head is based on things that have already been said to you.
“Don't eat that ice cream you are too fat already”
3)Our capacity to imagine our own possible