According to Cooley, the looking-glass self is a 3 step process that constantly takes
1. We imagine how we appear to others
2. We imagine the reaction of others to our
3. We evaluate ourselves according to how we imagine others have judged us
Thus, our self-image, self-worth, self-esteem can be seen as derived from our social
context (i.e. norms).
Mead distinguishes between the "I" and the "me." The "me" is the accumulated
understanding of "the generalized other" i.e. norms, unconscious opinions, patterns of
social response etc. The "I" is the more personal opinions, the reflector or observer, the
social struggler -- it is what creates the individual's individuality.
A Summary of The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life:
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