Main points: grief is, quote on page 240 grief is madness they will tell you it abates over time but that is a lie. What drowns you in the first year is a force of solitude and helplessness exactly equal in intensity to the love you had for the one who"s gone b. Grief is awful and you never really recover from the loss of a person. In the end he realizes (page 251) : relates to rosen on page 240 a. Through the pounding in his head, the blindness and paralysis, all his body functions out of control he had somehow heard me come in. Uses this phrase a lot: means, you are transient, and although you might have an effect on those around you (like ripples in a pond) your memory and the effect you did have will eventually fade away c.