PSYCH 104 Lecture Notes - Lecture 29: Psych, Positive Tone, Positive Illusions
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Be responsive to and prioritize each other"s needs, both general and sexual. Relationships dissolve for a number of reasons. Breakups can undermine our ability to eat and sleep well (among other things) for a time. We include our partners in our self-concept, so when the relationship ends we lose part of who we are. Associated with feeling like our self-concept has diminished. Can motivate us to change things about ourselves or our routines (e. g. getting a haircut) Baxter (1982) identi ed four main strategies people use to end a relationship: Positive tone ( it"s not you it"s me i. e. trying to prevent hard feelings) Manipulative strategies (e. g. using a third party) People who are less connected to their relationships are more ok with dumping someone via technology. The role a person plays in the decision to terminate the relationship predicts how they feel post-breakup. Those who initiate may suffer less, but often feel guilt and unhappiness.
