September 24, 2012
Identity: Connecting to Develop an Identity
1. Personal Identity
a) Basic Interpersonal Needs:
i. Each person, for birth on, strives to meet three basic interpersonal needs that are
1) Inclusion – Desire to be accepted and respected within some group/family
2) Control – Desire to impact the environment to satisfy needs
3) Affection – Desire to receive intimacy and civility from others
b) Definition of Identity:
i. A subjective collection of your attitudes and beliefs about yourself built up over
ii. Goal: To differentiate yourself from others and satisfy your interpersonal needs
iii. Your identity shifts, but stabilizes with age
iv. Determines the cards you create and the games you play
c) Self Concept Dimensions:
i. Physical Self: Appearance?
ii. Moral-ethical Self: Ethical important?
iii. Relational Self: People person/loner?
iv. Family-oriented Self: Family connection?
v. Personal Self: Individual traits?
vi. Social or Group Self: Social/Clan beliefs?
i. Definition: The evaluation of self in comparison to one’s ideal self
ii. Gap is big: Low self-esteem (vice versa)
iii. Self-esteem is variable: Low in some dimensions, but high in others
iv. Low esteem: Playing safer cards, topics and styles. 2. Social Identity
a) Tajfel: Knowledge of belonging to a group + emotional significance or value of the group
b) “I” and “Me” distinction:
i. How do “I” see myself separate from the group?
ii. How do others in the group see “Me?” What do I share in common with the group?
iii. Prove group identity: Play the right cards the right way to show respect for the
c) Gangster’s Paradise
d) Self-Monitoring and Social Identity:
i. High Self Monitors-
1) Are social chameleons
2) Good impressions