PSY 311 Lecture Notes - Lecture 14: Ingratiation
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If they do not match, less hotter spouse has desirable qualities: money, status, halo effect, presumption that physically attractive people possess other socially desirable traits as well, they develop better confidence, better first impression. Self-fulfilling prophecy: who is attractive, attractiveness is what people people of given time and place find attractive, perfectly average, people like the happy median, and not the extremes, people iike composite images of good looking people. Symmetry: attractiveness is essential for gene survival. Similarity bc we think they like us and they agree with us: mutual like bc we liked to be loved and accepted. Love and close relationships: passionate love, emotional, exciting, intense, physical. Secure (70%: trust and intimacy, committed long term relationships, avoidance (20%, avoiding closeness; fearful and dismissing, one night stands. Fear of cheating, mistrust, possessive, jealous: equity, people receive from a relationship what they contribute to it. Long-term equity: as people observe partners being self-giving, their sense of trust grows.
