CH ST 1B Lecture Notes - Lecture 6: Married People
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Enter the love lab" and john gottman"s a+ studies on love and relationships using videos recordings of talk, actions, and emotions to find out what helps and hurts in relationships. 1. communicate: talk together 1-2 hours/day ideally (min of 5 hours/week) When people find communication difficult, many people turn to tv, alcohol, drugs, and parties which can decrease serious communication. Say positive things, the reasons why you love your partner. Therapists find that many people have a hard time doing such exercises" in positive exchanges. A (+) 1st 3-5 mins can get a long string of (+) events going. Negative start-ups are bad! can start long neg chains of words and actions. 4c: plan to expand the positive parts of your relationship-lead to increased affection plan to increase shared activities that you both find positive: pleasant, exciting, rewarding, fulfilling. Thanking your partner for helping you grow and develop-making your life more rich.
