CYAF 280 Lecture Notes - Lecture 8: Microsoft Powerpoint
5 Oct 2018
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Textbook Reading:
Pages 2-39 in the Corey and Corey Textbook
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Structural Family Systems:
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Philosophy of how healthy families function and their role in development:
Major concepts
Subsystems
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Executive authority
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Boundaries
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Rules
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Roles
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Triangles
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Flexibility
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Alliances
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Communication
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Other concepts
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Philosophy of how healthy families look:
Components of family organization
Family hierarchy
Parents have more power than children; Develop "rules" and
reward the following of those rules
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Boundaries
Balanced
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Diffuse
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Rigid
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Alignment
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Power
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Ex: A child has to be the translator between parents and a school administrator,
and the parents are still not comfortable with this new school system.
Imagine how this affects alignment and power in their family structure
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** Respond to the discussion board with questions that would/could make this
situation any better
Philosophy of change in the family:
Minuchin: In order for families to change to a more functioning family structure,
the hierarchy must be modified in order to allow for parents to facilitate rules
and roles in the family household
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Revisiting > Joining
Joining
Creating a professional form of attachment
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Felt as trust and respect
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Want to start by chatting and being cordial
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Initial goal is to have them like and trust you
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Good first impression
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Invested
Clients can have respect for you, but are not invested in change
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Investment means personally interested in changing the issue consistent
with the change you see needed
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Encounter tips and tricks
Use consistent eye contact
Puts each of you on a level playing field
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Ask lots of open-ended questions
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Laugh or use humor if appropriate
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"Think before you speak and listen before you think"
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Get to know your customer
Softens any agenda you or they may have
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Allow for silence
Don’t be afraid of long, awkward silences
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Feel free to chit chat
Works especially well with children
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Re-direct tangential responses
Reply inadequately fits the original statement and has a frustrating
effect, not geared to the intention behind the original statement
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Don't be overly-directive
Allow the client to drive some of this conversation
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Conversation starters
What brings you in today?
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Can I help with any concerns you may have before we begin?
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What can I do for you?
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Not-so traditional responses
I would guess there are things you would rather be doing as a family than
visiting me but thank you for coming
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I understand you're here for "x", so what can you tell me about that?
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To begin with, let me tell you about what we have been doing in class.
How does that fit into what you want your child to learn?
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Perfect conversation starter
"I need you to help me understand how to best help your child"
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Antwone Fisher
What did the therapist have to do (specifically) to get Antwone to join him in
therapy?
He waited until he felt comfortable saying something or talkinga.
Continued to "wait it out" for weeks on end until the session would end
so that he could be the first to break the silence and be comfortable
around him
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Joining is not just getting a person to talk, but to truly open up. How did the
therapist get Antwone to really start opening up?
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How did you know this was authentic and real vs. just a superficial effort to fulfil
his requirement to stay in the navy?
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Why is this a good example of "joining"? (Look at the characteristics explained
within the power point and reading to identify characteristics that fit this
situation)
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Module 6
Friday, September 28, 2018
9:33 AM
Document Summary
Pages 2-39 in the corey and corey textbook. Philosophy of how healthy families function and their role in development: Parents have more power than children; develop rules and reward the following of those rules. Ex: a child has to be the translator between parents and a school administrator, and the parents are still not comfortable with this new school system. Imagine how this affects alignment and power in their family structure. ** respond to the discussion board with questions that would/could make this situation any better situation any better. Minuchin: in order for families to change to a more functioning family structure, the hierarchy must be modified in order to allow for parents to facilitate rules and roles in the family household. Want to start by chatting and being cordial. Initial goal is to have them like and trust you. Clients can have respect for you, but are not invested in change.
