PSY220H5 Chapter Notes - Chapter 10: Robert Sternberg, Attractor, Those We Love
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Chapter 10: attraction and intimacy: liking and loving others. Need to belong: a motivation to bond with others in relationships that provide ongoing, positive interactions. Satisfy the need to belong on balance with two other human needs to feel autonomy and competence and the typical result is a deep sense of well being. People (especially women) respond to ostracism with depressed mood, anxiety, hurt feelings, efforts to restore relationship, and eventual withdrawal. The silent treatment is emotional abuse and a terrible weapon to use. Exclusion hurts longest for anxious people, and hurts even when its by a disliked out group. Ostracized people experience heightened activity in the brain cortex area that also is activated in response to physical pain. Social exclusion was less bothersome when participants took an over the counter pain reliever --- acetaminophen. People remember and relive past social pain more easily then past physical pain.
