PSYC 471 Lecture Notes - Monogamy, Physical Attractiveness

• School: McGill University
• Department: Psychology
• Course: PSYC 471
• Professor: Richard Koestner

Document Summary

We need to disengage from unattainble goals. Objective: to understand why unrequited love occurs and what it can teach us about goal-striving; to explore research on goal disengagement. Romantic passionate love that is felt by one person toward another person who feels substantially less attraction toward the lover (a relatoinship fails to form). Clip from the bachelor: there"s a difference in perspective between the pursuer and the pursuee. Both getting and receiving a rejection is difficult. In most cases, we persist even when we can"t have something. this diminishes our immune system. We"re more likely to fail to invest in other, more reachable goals. Unrequited love is very likely in college. He asked a bunch of college students to describe a situation of unrequited love from the experience of both people. He only used the people who have been in both roles, which changes the way people think about people who end up being an unrequited lover.