7121 Chapter Notes - Chapter 12: Anna Freud, Normative Social Influence, Narcissism
21 Jun 2018
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CHAPTER 12
Becoming independent of parents
- Need for self sufficiency
- Forge mature relationships
- Independent from parents emotionally and practically
- Need to form newer relationsips with parents, discard old ones
- Can be hard to accept freedom parents give; can often go in too fast and then blame parents for
any issues
oUnloving rejection in kids eyes
oBut parents that don’t give freedom; unloving and selfish, overprotective
Gaining independence at home
- Aus parents set an older age for independence on kids
- Gender is also influential.
oBoys granted more autonomy for tasks/responsibilities earlier despite 2 year delay of
puberty compared to girls
- Housework comes younger for girls
oStudy in Sydney
77% of 14 year old girls did housework
27% 8 years
32% 14 year old boys
- Older they get; less willing to accept parental advice
oTolerated for education and career decisions
- Girls are more likely than boys to agree with parents about values, future and social issues ie
religion, politics
oMore open to discussion than boys?
Emerging into adulthood: emotional emancipation
- Hard to severe emotional attachment
oWithout it – impossible to have mature romantic relationship
The psychoanalytic model: freud and erikson
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- Emotional dependency on paretns in adulthood = not healthy; anna freud and dad
oBlock development of sexual maturity
- More turbulent adolescent if severed; better in the long run
- Unconscious emotional processes help with emancipation
oDisplacement – severes longstanding attachement to parents via temporary emotional
attachment to someone outside the family ie friends, teachers, mentors
Often have personality attributes opposite to that of their parents
Could be attached to ‘leaders’ or ‘heroes’
Weaker and less than parental bonds so as to only be a stepping stone towards
a more mature relationship
If not broken early enough = vicious cycle of dependency
oReversal of affect
Feelings for parents are turned on their head. Love = hate etc
Provides illusion of independence
oNarcissism
Love for parents is turned inwards and they fall inlove with themselves
Can grow into avoidant type A attachment
Emancipation through dialogue
- Youniss: growth from conversations with dialectical conflict
-Social construction: use of skilled reasoning and communication to boost mutual undersating
between parent and child
- 5 elements of his model
oConstruct ideas through dialogue
oArgument enhances cognition
oDepends on open dialogue and effective negotiation
oMotivated to seek social validation
oBoosts development
- Helps gain mutually respective relationsip
Cultural variations in the process of becoming independent
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- Differences exist
- Trusteeship of culture, respect for elders
- Those who made emancipation before moving to aus – better off, made more friends etc
- NZ parents make emancipation more difficult by being stricter than in the US
oMore neg commens made by children at 15
Parent – adolescent conflict and communication
- Important issues = emotional conversation = anger involved in communication
- 15-19 yr olds; parent arguments 3rd most worry and concern
- 3.3 disputes at the dinner table in a healthy family under naturalistic study
ogood to let everyone have their say
oseemed to accept conflict as a part of everyday life
- teens moving into formal operational thought allows for more logical and reasonable
communication
omore heated angry arguments with parents in this stage
oincrease intensity
omay trigger mental disequilibrium
family negotiation strategies
- important and determines long term effects
- aus: continuum of increasingly open dispute, ranging from anxious avoidance to violant fighting
learning to negotiate at home
- healthy strategy: mutual discussion
oused more often by teenagers when parents used it in couple conflicts
ouseful for dating and cohabitation
- bad strategies by parents = used by kids
Family conflict and adolescent self esteem
- strategies used by families linked with self esteem
- more self confident and relaxed and skilled in peer communication when parents use more
open strategies such as discussions
family communication , conflict ad identity exploration
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Document Summary
Need to form newer relationsips with parents, discard old ones. Can be hard to accept freedom parents give; can often go in too fast and then blame parents for any issues: unloving rejection in kids eyes, but parents that don"t give freedom; unloving and selfish, overprotective. Aus parents set an older age for independence on kids. Gender is also influential: boys granted more autonomy for tasks/responsibilities earlier despite 2 year delay of puberty compared to girls. Housework comes younger for girls: study in sydney. 77% of 14 year old girls did housework. Older they get; less willing to accept parental advice: tolerated for education and career decisions. Hard to severe emotional attachment: without it impossible to have mature romantic relationship. Emotional dependency on paretns in adulthood = not healthy; anna freud and dad: block development of sexual maturity. More turbulent adolescent if severed; better in the long run.
