Chapter 3: getting together y courtship is also referred to as mate selection y. According to erik erikson (1982) there are a few developmental tasks that are important in relationships: in young adulthood, establishing intimacy, building a foundation for the couple s relationship. In societies where couples do not have free choice of a partner, shared experiences include expectations of their families and society at large. In new france and upper canada people were encouraged to marry for family and property y unmarried lost privileges y sikh immigrants to bc were not allowed to bring family with them or seek y white women. Indians living in north america see marriage as a route to immigration, in return the other mate offers their ability to earn a living and keep up religious traditions. The shift toward free choice y changes in attitudes towards premarital sexual experience, reflect changing social conditions and increases scientific knowledge.