Disagreements about sex, children, in-laws, etc. can stir conflict in close relationships. Research shows that economic pressures, in particular, put an enormous amount of strain on marital relations the issue is not whether it occurs but how we respond to it. One source of conflict is the difficulty some people have talking about their disagreements. Comparisons between happy and distressed couples have revealed a number of communication patterns that often occur in troubled relationships. Men and women react differently to conflict. Women usually report more intense emotions and are more expressive. When dating partners were asked about how they typically deal with problems, the same female- demand/male-withdraw pattern was found: married or not, it"s clear that couples caught in this bind often find themselves echoing, you just don"t understand. According to john gottman, there is nothing wrong with either approach to dealing with conflict.