"playing with fire": the gendered construction of chicana/mexicana sexuality" - patricia. Zavella: what are some of the cultural, social, political, and economic influences that shaped. Mirella: sex shouldn"t be talked about because openness about it is disrespectful. Father was abusive towards the mother and an alcoholic and she didn"t want to be touched by men. Father and mother told her you have to be married and in order to have intercourse. To have sex she was told she needed to be economically stable. Quinceanera was held to celebrate her virginity and family (just newly divorced) Her mother was open to birth control and wanted her to date around but remain a virgin until marriage. Pop stars became big and influental on mirella and her friends about their views on sex. She lost her virginity to her first boyfriend who cheated on her and she didn"t date again until a year later.