COM 100 Chapter Notes - Chapter 5: Socratic Questioning
30 Dec 2020
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Most of us engage in this pattern at some point in relationships. The person with the power typically is the one withdrawing because they are happy with the way things are going. The demanders are the people demanding some sort of change in the relationship and are demanding this because they usually don"t have this type of power on their own. In terms of gender differences, there are strong differences; 80% of men are the withdrawers in relationships. 4 distinct types of demand/withdraw patterns (caughlin & scott, 2010) Discuss/exit: 1 seeks to discuss issue, other exits-physically or. Socratic question/ perfunctory response: asking series of qs, other gives. Complain/deny: complaining about relational issue, other denies expected answers communicatively legitimacy of the issue. Criticize/defend: 1 person states criticism of other, who responds defensively. These aren"t great ways to approach conflict; don"t meet satisfaction or conflict resolution. Couples differ in the way they exert influence, resolve conflict, & communicate about emotions.
