1008HSV Lecture 6: Week 6
20 Jun 2018
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1008HSV Interpersonal Skills
Week 6
Week 6 Lecture
First position and Third position skills in this lecture!
First position
The power of words
"Words and meaning area fundamental part of what it means to be human!
"eg. religion, evolutionary advantage, sociology, art and literature !
"There are different theories regarding the origins of language!
"Language is fluid and tends to become more complex over time!
"Words are the mechanism by which we understand the world !
"Be aware of words, images, situations that stereotype or suggest that all or most
members of a racial group are the same!
The word ‘but’
"Often a way of sating yes or no, or conveying a positive and negative in the same
sentence!
"“I love you but i wish you would change your underwear more often” !
"Change ‘but’ to ‘and’ !
"“I love you and i wish you would change your underwear more often” !
"When offering constructive criticism, try offering ‘and’ rather than ‘but’!
Yes and no
"When it is appropriate, it is important that you are assertive and say what you really
think, try not to use ‘maybe’ !
Always and never
"Over-generalisations !
"The literal meaning is seldom accurate and applicable to life situations!
Ought and should
"Should be avoided!
"Judgemental !
"Use ‘need’ or ‘want’ !
"‘you may need to study for the test’ rather than ‘you should study for the test’!
Can’t
"‘i can’t dance’ vs ‘i don’t want to dance’!
"I can’t dance is quite passive, people will try and get you to do it!
Self-talk
"largely determines how we feel about things and how we behave !
Distorted thinking
"I must succeed in all I do!
"He’s an idiot!
"Life should be fair!
"I can’t!
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Document Summary
First position and third position skills in this lecture. Words and meaning area fundamental part of what it means to be human eg. religion, evolutionary advantage, sociology, art and literature. There are di erent theories regarding the origins of language. Language is uid and tends to become more complex over time. Words are the mechanism by which we understand the world. Be aware of words, images, situations that stereotype or suggest that all or most members of a racial group are the same. Often a way of sating yes or no, or conveying a positive and negative in the same. I love you but i wish you would change your underwear more often . I love you and i wish you would change your underwear more often . When o ering constructive criticism, try o ering and" rather than but". Yes and no think, try not to use maybe".
