COMG 151 Lecture Notes - Lecture 8: Nonverbal Communication, Relational Dialectics, Indep
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Relational dialectics: tensions ppl commonly face, push-pull dynamics. Good to have honest, open, and non-defensive communication. Negotiate how much time is expected to spend togeth. /apart: predictability vs. Tension likely to emerge @ some pt: may occur @ beg. /mid. of relationship, openness vs. closedness. Comfort w/being open vs. need for privacy. Be proactive and work hard if partners differ. Symmetrical relationships characterized by sim. control behaviors among both ppl. Parallel relationships characterized by shifting control behaviors among both ppl. Interpersonal conflict a struggle that occurs when ppl cannot agree on a way to meet their needs incompatible goals/needs. Constructive conflict cooperation: builds relationship rather than hurt it. Destructive conflict lack of cooperation: bad for relationship lack of flexibility. Ppl change: more cooperative than competitive. Characterized by a relationship focus: using we lang. helps rather than i . Primarily cooperative: working together instead of trying to win.
