COM 100 Lecture Notes - Lecture 19: Tunxis Community College, Cognitive Model, Small Talk
23 Nov 2020
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The secret to attaining the collaborative mode during conflict (get from someone else) love maps the cognitive space filled with knowledge of your partners. Interpersonal comm scholars have made strong moves toward understanding. Cycle: small talk knowledge of your partner appreciation and admiration positive sentiment buffer against 4 horsemen small talk. Aimed at promoting knowledge of the good and bad. A fundamentally positive view of your spouse and your marriage is a powerful buffer when bad times hit . Here we get gottman"s call for active listening. Offered are several suggestions for giving support: very important do"s and don"ts on page 98-102. How to listen to negative emotions: acknowledge their difficulty, reduce your own potential for flooding, ex: focus on your breathing, explore rather than solve, what are your concerns what leads you do thinking that instead of why . Marriages are successful to the degree that the problems you choose are the ones you can cope with .
