SWREN414R Chapter Notes - Chapter 7: Focusing
14 Dec 2018
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In this brief excerpt, the eft therapist explores sexual experience and interactions to support each partner"s ability to risk more open expressiveness and to foster interactions that create greater emotional safety in the sexual realm. Each sexual move has become so filled with fear. If you don"t get it right, if you don"t give her the pleasure she wants, then you fear you"ll lose her. It"s too hard to let her know how scared you are. Sometimes when these fears build, getting close and contact is really exciting for you, but scary at the same time. So when you focus on the sensations, you ejaculate quickly, other times, you go elsewhere in sex. You focus on your penis, how erect it is, am i performing well . you kinda leave you and her at that point. You withdraw; you focus on whether you"re performing okay, because it"s life or death for the relationship at that point.
