PSY 0818 Chapter Notes - Chapter 4: Psychological Abuse, Physical Abuse, Verbal Abuse
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Historical perspectives: a good match was considered one that increased the wealth of both families, courting moved quickly into marriage because they died young, old maids were between 22-27. Some had to pay a bachelorhood tax: bundling eventually fell out of favor because couples had sex before marriage. What is love: triangular theory of love (intimacy, passion, and commitment) i. Intimacy only=liking: passion only=infatuation, commitment only-empty love iv. Intimacy+passion=romantic love: passion+commitment=fatuous love, commitment+intimacy=companionate love vii. Intimacy+passion+commitment=consummate love: couples feel unhappy if one of the three components is weak or missing. Communication in relationships: self disclosure-how much they reveal reflects their closeness. Deepens relationship and they become more attracted: validating communication, calm discussions. Communication warning signs: criticism/complaining, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, couples need to acknowledge that maintaining positive personal connections may be the most powerful tool they can use in building and maintaining relationship happiness and intimacy.
