Rights may look good, but think about why we want them. Suggests this is not the best way to get what you want. Bell hooks writers, childrearing is a responsibility that can be shared with other childrearers, with people who do not live with children. This form of parenting is revolutionary many people raised n black communities experienced this type of community-based child care : ex. raised by a village, revolutionary because it goes against the paradigm of motherhood/parenthood (i. e. one mother, one father) Just because of the hierarchy we think this way: nuclear family looks attractive because not a primordial tradition, but a problem we solved by making a mother look after her kid. I believe that women who identify as lesbian or gay should be reluctant to put our activist energy into attaining legal equity with heterosexuals in marriage and motherhood : marriage/motherhood should be changed. Institutions are so flawed they shouldn"t be recommended for anyone.