SOC271 Lecture Notes - Lecture 10: Ideal Type, Engagement, No Alternative
8 Jun 2018
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Transitions in Marriage
A. Stage 1 - Happy Honeymoon Stage
1. the continuing romantic glow and excitement that accompanies the wedding and
honeymoon
2. In this stage, the couple is likely to experience optimism and all irritations and
problems are minor.
B. Stage 2 - Disillusionment and Regrets
1. the hoeyoo is over stage
2. This stage is characterized by conflicts, regrets, and ambi- valence about the
marriage itself.
3. One or both partners feel that they have made a grievous mistake - trapped in a
marriage from which escape is difficult.
4. Strong feelings of disillusionment.
In Stage 1 - the couple has the pleasurable task of discovering their similarities.
In Stage 2 - they must come to grips with their differences - dissimilarities.
5. It is during this stage that the couple learns to appreciate both their positive and
negative impact upon each other - especially their vulnerability to hurt.
C. Stage 3 - Accommodation
1. This stage involves adjusting to one's expectations for the relationship to realistic
levels.
2. To build a realistic and durable foundation based on the romantic love and positive
qualities of the early days of the relationship.
3. This task requires mastery of:
a. effective communication
b. mutual self-disclosure
c. agreed-upon ground rules
d. skillful conflict resolution
e. requires a combination of awareness, caring, and commitment
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D. Lederer & Jackson, 1968
1. two key dimensions in marital relationships:
- SATISFACTORY vs. UNSATISFACTORY
- STABLE vs. UNSTABLE
2. most desirable type was satisfactory - stable
3. however, most intact marriages are satisfactory - unstable;
i.e., the couple somehow manages to maintain their marriage despite
disappointments and conflicts.
E. Cuber & Harroff, 1965 - Five Types of Marriages (successful)
1. Method
- 211 interviews (107 males, 104 females)
- 10 or more years of marriage
- never seriously considered divorce or separation
2. Five recurring configurations emerged of male-female relationships.
a. CONFLICT-HABITUATED.
Most prevalent type of marriage - overt behaviour is readily observable
- constant disagreement and quarrelling
- tension and conflict
- often aided by a satisfactory sex life
b. DEVITALIZED MARRIAGE.
Clear distinction between early and middle years of marriage.
- ouple usually haraterizes theselves as havig ee deeply i love durig the early
years, as having spent a great deal of time together, having enjoyed sex, close identification
with one another
- couple has drifted into an emotional divorce and empty marriage
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Document Summary
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