Stephanie Oliveira 1
Module 46: Pro-social Relation
The Psychology of Attraction
Proximity—geographic nearness- is friendship’s more powerful predictor.
o Because of the mere exposure effect: the phenomenon that repeated
exposure to novel stimuli increases liking of them
Familiarity breeds liking
o Very important
o Attractive people thought to be better—more successful and
o Concept of attraction varies from era to era and from culture to
o Some are constant: women with youthful appearances are considered
beautiful, men that look mature, dominant and affluent are
o Average= most attractive.
We like those who like us
o Reward theory of attraction: we will like those whose behaviour is
rewarding to us. And will continue relationships that offer more
rewards than costs.
o When someone likes us, we feel good and respond to them warmly
which leads them to like us even more.
Online Matchmaking and Speed Dating
People who tend to lie about themselves
People disclose more info about themselves and their relationships were ore
likely to last beyond two years
In speed dating:
o Men are ore transparent with their interest
o More options=more superficiality
o Women are choosier (but this is not the case if they are the ones
getting up and moving to a different spot)
An aroused state of intense positive absorption in another, usually present at
the beginning of a love relationship
When men are aroused by fear or physical activity, they think of women as
Explained by the two factor theory of emotion
o Emotions have two ingredients –physical arousal and cognitive
o Arousal from any source can enhance one emotion or another,
depending on how we interpret and label the arousal. Companionate Love
The deep affectionate attachment we feel for those with whom our lives are
Hormones like testosterone, adrenaline are replaced by oxytocin, which
supports feelings of trust, calmness and bonding.
Equity: a condition in which people receive from a relationship in proportion
to what they give it.
Self-disclosure: revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others.
Unselfish regard for the welfare of others
Kitty Genovese’s murder cause social psychologists to pay much attention to
o She was stabbed, screamed for help windows opened, lights went
on but no one called police or helped.
o Murderer came back and stabbed her again and raped her before
someone finally called the police.
Bystander effect: the tendency for any given bystander to be l