PSYC 5 Lecture Notes - Lecture 18: Psych, John Gottman, Term Of Endearment

• School: Irvine Valley College
• Department: Psychology
• Course: PSYC 5
• Professor: Tucker

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Point 4c: plan to expand the positive parts of your relationship. A basic principle of social psychology: shared positive interactions increase affection (be it love or friendship, hence, plan to increase shared activities that you both find positive, pleasant, exciting, rewarding, fulfilling. Its easy to increase mutually positive things when you both agree. But when people don"t agree they tend to either: 1) negation down. Cut out things that make partner unhappy/uncomfortable. End up limiting behavior repertoire realize not much in common, begin to feel. That the relationship is a ball and chain. End up blaming partner for making you give up things you used to enjoy: 11) or negotiation up. Both people try to add positive behaviors and interests to their lives. Thanking partner for helping you grow and develop. An opportunity to see things you"ve never seen before.