SOC 152A Lecture Notes - Lecture 25: John Gottman
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Reasoning is when two people get together to solve a problem or accomplish a goal. List many alternative choices and keep that list open so new options can be added. Democratically discuss the pros and cons of each option for both short and long term. You can create your own future or accept the path of least resistance. Reasoning should not be rigid or overly academic. Have fun, encourage free associations, and play with unlimited possibilities. Postpone a fixed decision as long as possible. Or suggest alternate suggestions until a mutually acceptable compromise is found. A person who is low on persuasability (compromise) can be a big problem in relationships, because they wont listen and consider change for their partner. Helps make your relationship more democratic, equal, and fair. Later, when doing a new activity, you won"t blame your partner if it.
