04:189:101 Lecture Notes - Lecture 17: Relational Dialectics, Dialectic, Silent Treatment

• School: Rutgers University
• Department: Communication and Informatio
• Course: 04:189:101
• Professor: Householder, B

Document Summary

Where it is and where it is going. The majority of marriages end in divorce. The vast majority of intimate interpersonal relationships are terminated. Common reasons cited are grounded in baxter"s relational dialectics. Most relational concerns center on these 3 tensions. Someone is an open book: giving away intimate details. Novel: always doing new things, no routine. Depends on how we perceive and deal with the tension. By redefining the meanings of the extremes. Novel: they know i can handle new things. Choosing one extreme for some activities and the other extreme for others. Expressive about family, but protective about past relationships. Novel person is comforting because they"re predictable stability. When dialectic tensions are not reframed or seen as positive partners engage in negative communication behaviors. Criticism: attacking the partner and not the behavior. Gunnysacking: saving up grievances to use them at a later time. 2 weeks ago you didn"t take out trash.