PSYC 221 Lecture Notes - Active Listening, Self-Control, Communication Problems
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Interpersonal conflict=one"s motives, goals, beliefs, opinions, interfere with or are incompatible with another. One"s wishes/actions actually obstruct those of someone else. Certain tensions woven into relationships that will always eventually cause strain. Ppl have dialects=opposing motivations drawing ppl different directions at different times: difference between autonomy and connection. Preferences swing back and forth as one is unfulfilled: tension b/t openness and closedness, tension b/t stability and change, tension b/t integration and separation from social network. Motive to stay involved with others/be with partner. Four dialect issues make 1/3 of fights reported by married couples. Conflict every 3. 6 minutes b/t 4 year olds and parents. 2. 3 arguments a week when dating, 7 big opinion differences every 2 weeks in a marriage. People have more conflict than others because of . Personality: high neurotics are impulsive, have more disagreements, high agreeable are cooperative with few conflicts.
