HDFS 1070 Lecture Notes - Lecture 5: Intentionality, Foster Care, Child Abuse
7 Dec 2016
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Most stressful stage: most exits and entrances, developmental stacking. Regular contact, involved in lives, or distant figure who is indifferent to lives of grandchildren: the experience of grandparenthood. How you feel yourself about that experience or role: set up by legacy you have established with your children. Positive connections with children over time create opportunities for intergenerational connections, support, and generativity. Negative connections over time increase likelihood of cross-generational coalitions, triangling, and splits. Parents overtly or covertly block grandparents access to grandchildren. Grandparents seek an alliance with the grandchildren. Whenever children are faced with cross-generational conflict, it raises their anxiety about having their needs met. Having needs met is conditional, if you support grandma and say you hate mom. Then your needs are met: one of the most powerfully rejecting things you can do to your adult children: reject their children. Your children mean nothing to me: wide variability in structure and experience.
