HDFS 1070 Lecture 11: 12.9 Guidelines for Living (last lecture)
9 Dec 2016
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Guidelines for living: understand the sources of anxiety, how it influences our lives, and how to contain it (it never get eliminated) Be aware when you have anxiety and figure out how to react to it better. A lot of sources of anxiety come from family of origin. Understand that people react based on anxiety: you cannot change the past. But you can change how you respond to it. Don"t perseverate over unhappiness based on what happened. If you pay too much attention to the past, the past controls you: you can only change yourself. Cannot change other people: do(cid:374)"t (cid:272)hase dista(cid:374)(cid:272)ers. When you chase a distancer, they just distance further. Most people distance themselves because they are emotionally flooded and extremely anxious. When you are aware that someone is distancing themselves, it is a signal that they are anxious. Especially if they are a male: learn how to love.
