PS270 Chapter 10: LIKING THOSE WHO LIKE US AND RELATIONSHIP REWARDS
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One person"s liking for another does predict the other"s liking in return. Discovering that an appealing someone likes you seems to awaken romantic feelings. A dash of uncertainty can also fuel desire thinking that someone probably likes you tends to increase your thinking about, and feeling attracted to, another. Negative information carries more wait than positive info bc, being less usual, it grabs more attention. If praise clearly violates what we know is true, we may lose respect for the flatterer and may attribute flattery to integration (self serving strategy) Thus we perceive criticism to be more sincere than praise. People with low self esteem focus narrowly on the literal meaning of complients; you have a nice smile means just that. People with high self esteem attribute more abstract significance to compliments; that their partner is attentive, values, and cares for them and feel more secure in relationships.
