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HLSC 1F90 Lecture Notes - Clitoris, Dysfunctional Family, Xyy Syndrome


Department
Health Sciences
Course Code
HLSC 1F90
Professor
Brent Faught

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CHSC 1F90 October 23rd 2012
Healthy Relationships & Sexuality
Week # 7
- Communication is one of the predominant factors (everyone needs someone to communicate with)
o We often take this for granted
- Self-Disclosure: ability to talk to someone else, sharing your personal info with others, there is
some degree of risk and vulnerability
- Considering a listening components and it’s a dying skill
- Community skills important
- Intimacy importance
1. Behavioral Interdependence
- Characterized by a mutual impact that you have with someone else and your lives are
intertwined (prof and student class every Tuesday), at least 2 people interpret
2. Need Fulfillment
- More involved
- Approval = do you have a relationship with someone that provides support to the decision that
you make in life
- Intimacy: sharing feelings freely with one another
- Social Integration: ability to share our worries and concerns
- Nurturing: nurturing others (taking care of them) and then being able to be nurtured. (You’re
my best friend I provide academic resources for you and you provide them for me)
- Reassurance of you self-worth = Big question do I matter to you?
3. Emotional Attachment & Availability
- We need to be involved on an emotional level and available to them
- We need to feel free to give and receive emotionally in the relationship but there cannot be any
fear of rejection.
- Difficult one to handle
- Those who are in a relationship with a sig. other and have broken up, are now in a rebound
relationship not successful b/c one of the 2 parties has not been able to get over the
emotional attachment from the original relationship, therefore that must be worked out before
moving on
Relationships
- Problematic when there is no intimate relationship (individuals should seek assistance)
- Definition of family!!!
- Triangular theory of love think about relationships in your lives, different individuals in this
triangle
- 7 different love relationships / 3 corners
o passion = infatuation
o empty love = decision (I have to love you in some form)
o liking = intimacy
o between infatuation + liking = romantic love (passion + intimacy)
o liking + empty love = compassionate love (intimacy+commitment)
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CHSC 1F90 October 23rd 2012
o infatuation + empty love = fatuous love (passion+commitment)
o In the middle consumable love (intimacy+passion+commitment)
- Women are much more emotional all about the relationship (Are concerned about getting in
relationship but also maintaining it)
- Men are not relationship oriented, but task oriented it’s a job, goal to attain. What allows men to
feel they are in a healthy relationship with a sig. other is very much depended upon sexual intimacy
- Proximity: how close are you physically to this person
- Similarities and differences with others, most relationships are built upon similarities
- Men for the most part select partners based on youth and physical attractiveness
- Women: maturity and stability (finance), looking for someone who is dependable and who is
industrious (focused on objectives in life) in the long run looks are secondary
- Dysfunctional family sub stance abuse (alcohol) and some form of physical, emotional or sexual
abuse would hinder the intimacy of that family.
- Jealousy typically involving a 3rd person or more. One who is feeling jealous has low self-
esteem. Overdependence, needy, high maintenance. Severity of the threat 3rd person is better
looking, more ed., and better body type. Fear of losing control to the 3rd party. Sexual Activity = I
don’t like you touching that person/being so close to that person.
- Commitment different types of relationship (gay, straight), common law relationship, there are
diff. types of relationships (monogamy: sex with one person, serial monogamy: moving on to
another person = death, divorce, open relationship: in committed relationship but sleeping around
with another “swinging”
- Sexual Orientation what your affinity is (gay or straight), the desires and goals are the same =
intimacy with an individual even though may be same/other sex
What makes a successful relationship?
- Activity: security, love, trust
- Partnering Scripts: biggest factor on how you pick sig. other is the influence from our families.
- Self-Nurturance: essentially demonstrating to others that you can look after yourself. Ability to have
intimate relationship but can still take care of yourself, if you can’t demonstrate care for yourself
how can you possibly care for someone else?
- Trust: 3 factors dependability, predictability, faith (confidence in another individual, certain of
what your partners intensions are)
Other factors…
- Children (much more complex, want to stay together b/c children come first, not just about you
- Staying single what about those who choose not to be in a relationship? 40-41% are single,
54% are male
- EXAM! Do single individuals live longer research suggest they do and some say they don’t
Unsuccessful Relationships
- #1: diminishing of communication between yourself and your partner
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