Class Notes – December 2nd, 2010 1
Parent and Peer Relationships
- Dual connection of connectedness and separateness that begins from the moment of birth and remains with us
through life
- 2 social worlds of childhood: 1) adults 2) peers
- Different types of goals/interactions/relationships with the parents and peers
Parenting Styles and Preschool Children
Diana Baumrind, 1967, ’69, ’71. ’73. ‘77
- Comprehensive study of child rearing practices
- Different parental behaviour, and children’s success in adapting their everyday activity
- Adaptive traits = assume all parents to encourage their children
- These traits are called instrumental competence (goals to want children to be instrumentally competent)
Instrumental competence
Social responsibility = friendly, not hostile to other. Facilitative and not disruptive of others work. Cooperative.
Participating in a positive way
Independence = behaviour which is ascendant rather than submissive, purposeive as opposed to aimless, self-
determining as opposed to conforming
Achievement orientation = achieve academically, seek intellectual stimulation and challenges, and try to solve
problems in a persistent and efficient way, as opposed to in impulse
Vitality = child will have a certain level of biological energy and vigorous appearance
- Interested to see what parenting skills to promote instrumental competence
4 dimensions of parents
Parental Control
o Display in parents’ active attempt to influence child’s behaviour
o Parental standards, can be a measure of disciplines
Clarity of communication
o Offering reasons for any restrictive measures that are taken
o Listening to the children’ opinion and feelings when family decisions are being made
Maturity Demand
o Parental pressure in order for children to behave in an appropriate way (emotionally academically
socially) – expectations parents have for the children
Nurturance
o Warmth, involvement in caretaking, parents express concerns for the child’s wellbeing and pleasure in
child’s accomplishment
- Find clusters of these dimensions that go together Class Notes – December 2nd, 2010 2
Parent and Peer Relationships
Control (Hi/Lo) Clarity of Communication (Hi/Lo) Demand (Hi/Lo) Nurturance (Hi/Lo)
Authoritarian = control, military
Authoritative = well-disciplined, explains the conditions of the rewards/punishments
Permission = spoil the child
Neglecting = no concern with child
Control Clarity of Maturity of Demand Nurturance
Communication
Authoritarian High Low High Low
Authoritative High High High High
Permissive/Laissez- Low High Low High
faire
Neglecting Low Low Low Low
- Uni-directional model (parenting style and results on the parents)
Authoritarian parents
- Children are WITHDRAWN = mood is low, low on peer affiliation, low on approach, low on self-reliance, low in
self-control
- Sex difference: (girls) = more dependent on parents, lack achievement motivation (boys) = less likely to develop
self-reliance, and more likely to be angry and hostile
Authoritative parents
- Children are COMPETENT = high in mood/vitality, high in self-reliance, high on approach, high on self-control
- Sex difference: (girls) = more self reliance and self motivation than the boys, more resistant towards their
parents, more challenging (boys) = friendly and cooperative
Permissive parents
- Children are IMMATURE = low on self-reliance, low on self-control, low on approach
- Sex difference: similar to those of authoritarian parenting, but mood tend to be higher
Methodological Problems/Limitations
- Sampling procedure: started with 110 children, but in the end, sample size was 32 children (only wanted
children in the study who demonstrated the clear-cut parenting styles and behaviour)
- Never addresses whether the parenting style of the mother is the same of the father (any incongruity of
parenting style of parents)
- Had a sample of white middle class families (sample)
- Assume uni-directional model, from parent to the children, without taking the account of children’s
temperament and intellectual capability which might affect parents’ behaviour to them (should be more
transactional)
- Only studied the children up to age 8, don’t know if parenting styles have different effects on children as they
reach puberty or adolescence
- Correlational of parent style and children’s behaviour
Lauren Steinberg, Dornbusch, Brown, Mounts, Lamborn = studied 14000 children across US in longitudinal study
(children highschool) address to problems of Baumrind’s short experiment Class Notes – December 2nd, 2010 3
Parent and Peer Relationships
- Authoritative parenting is advantageous to students with academic achievements, social skills, competence, and
self-esteem (exception: African-american children) **cultural related styles to parenting
- Africa-American children tend to do better with authoritarian parenting. Also the same of Hispanic American
Winter (year 2000) – study children in universities regarding parenting style
- Children reported their parents are authoritative, correlated to their GPA and self-esteem, low stress, and
perception of adjustment to university was better
Child’s View on Parental Authority and Control (Damon, 1980)
- Use clinically interview (ask why, ask child’s viewpoint)
- William Damon: explore children’s conception of parental authority, what they understand, interview children of
4-12. Presented a hypothetical story (use male if talking to male student and vice versa)
- asked the legitimacy of parents’ authority, asked the rationale of children’s obedience
- found all children believe obeying one’s parent is important, but the reasons for the obedience and
understanding of parents’ authority/leadership changes with age (developmental)
- youngest level: obey because he wants to, and commands and demands don’t need to be listened to
- next level: reality of punishment is grasp, obey in order to avoid unpleasant consequences
- 3 level: child now infuses parents’ authority with objects of power, they know everything, so you got to listen
to them. They are bigger than you are so they can punish you
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- 4 level: parental command is legitimized by superior virtues, obedience is an exchange of respect (in your own
best interest to listen to your parents)
- 5 level: obedience is a matter of choice, based on a temporarily/voluntarily
Preschool – Introduction to Peers Group
- Start to interact more with peers at preschool (age 3+)
Winter & Webster (1974, 1980, & Winter 1989)
Autism
o Loneliness, don’t have social skills. Don’t establish direct eye contact with people, don’t have any
language to begin with or is very minimal. Be involved in stereotypic/self-damaging behaviour
o Most productive treatment = intensive behavioural intervention (IBI) – behavioural modification, very
intensive, 1 adult 1 child early intervention
o Late 1960s: there would be emphasis on mainstreaming kids who have particular problems
o Everyone should attend public school and kids should mainstream in regular classrooms
o Autistic children would be in dayschool program (9-5) have special interventions and now they would be
mainstreamed in public school
o Play = “social participation skills”
Ethology
Mildred Parten, 1932
Social Participations Skills
- Understand how kids get involved with peers
- There are 6 stages or expanded repertoire of skills
- Class Notes – December
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