SOC101Y1 Chapter Notes -Endogamy, Storge, Biosocial Theory

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Chapter Three: Dating and Mate Selection
dating and mate selection: first step toward family formation
+ not all individuals date prior to marriage
+ dating and mate selection can occur at any age and may be repeated several times
throughout the life course, but are most prevalent in young adulthood
Dating: Now and In the Past:
prior to 1920, dating activities were closely regulated by parents/other family members
(chaperones) and often occurred in the home of the female
+ dating during this time considered serious & an indication of commitment to marriage
+ dating individuals did not spend time alone together and dating was done for the
purposes of showing commitment to the intent of marriage, not just for fun
period between 1920 & 1960: “golden age of courtship”
+ after WWI, dating less supervised – courtship became important where young adults
could refine gender roles, status, and identity a high rate of marriage and a decrease in
age at marriage
for women, dating was an essential stage of life with the main goal of attaining a husband
beginning 1960, as women gained more freedom, dating practices shifted
+ traditionally, men were initiators, planners, and payers for date... today, women have
more of a direct role in these processes
+ nowadays, dating become much less formal, with spur-of-the-moment activities more
and more likely
+ group activities or “hanging out” become more commonplace, allowing individuals the
chance to meet and develop friendships or intimate relationships
+ technology become a source for meeting individuals through internet dating, etc....
+ goal of dating shifted to that of having fun and meeting new people
hooking up: a girl and a guy get together for a physical encounter and don't necessarily
expect anything further
+ a physical encounter without any expectation of a relationship to follow
+ may initiate dating
dating: a man and a woman who attend functions together
+ differs from mate selection in that the purpose of dating is entertainment only, not
choosing a life partner
+ can be a source of pressure, often linked to social status – may be seen as lower if don't
date as much.
Extent of dating that occurs depends somewhat on the subculture to which a person
belongs
arranged marriage: having someone other than the individual who will be married select
the marriage partner, avoiding (or at least shortening) the practice of dating
+ marriage partner can be chosen by parents and extended family, matchmakers, or
religious leaders
+ purpose is to have a family; love is expected to develop as the marriage progresses due
to similarities in socio-economic status and cultural background between two individuals
+ believed that parents and matchmakers have practical knowledge and experience with
regards to partner selection, while young adults choosing partners based on emotion (love)
may make avoidable mistakes
+ practice of arranged marriage interferes with idea of dating someone who is not chosen
by one's family
immigrant youth tend to date less than Canada-born peers
+ reasons: parenting style, have fewer opportunities to date since they must take on more
responsibilities in the family
+ interracial dating is on the rise
The Functions of Dating:
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dating process can occur for a variety of reasons
+ can establish short-term sexual encounters and relationships, mate selection,
cohabitation for practical purposes and to avoid being alone, cohabitation as a trial or
precursor to marriage, and cohabitation as a substitute to marriage
four main functions of dating: gaining status, socialization, recreation, and mate selection
+ dating someone who's considered highly desirable (popular) can increase a person's
status within his or her social group – must be a “worthy” individual if an attractive/popular
person wants to date them.
+ for men, dating an attractive female will cause others to believe that they have some
highly desirable attributes (radiating effect of beauty) – your partner's attractiveness
can improve the way people perceives you
+ dating's a great arena for socialization – allows men and women to learn how to behave
and adjust to others in intimate context ;; often allows a person to get an “outsider's view”
on their personality and character, which can lead to self-improvement
+ provides opportunities for recreation. Can have fun with another person who may make
you try something new
+ can lead to mate selection by allowing one to determine whether a particular person
would make a good life partner for them
Dating and Sex:
four general sexual standards in which individuals believe today:
+ abstinence: belief that sex should occur only in context of marriage (not dating)
+ permissiveness with affection: belief that sex is considered okay if two people are not
married but in love
+ permissiveness without affection: belief that love doesn't have to exist for a person
to have premarital sex
+ double standard: occurs when there's a belief that women should practice
permissiveness with affection but it's considered okay for men to practice it without
affection
+ although attitudes toward premarital sex become more permissive, it's still socially
regulated
+ premarital sex is occurring but at different rates depending on age, gender, and ethnicity
Attraction: The First Step Toward Dating:
Propinquity Theory:
people are attracted to those individuals who are around them
+ to be attracted to someone, they must first be able to meet them
+ repeated contact/familiarity causes us to like an individual
+ people who lived close to each other more likely to become friends than those who lived
farther away
+ familiarity can work in opposite way – if disliked by someone, repeated encounters can
heighten their dislike
historically, an individual could only meet those in their immediate surroundings – choices
of partners in small towns may be limited
+ with advent of new technologies, virtual spaces are now available where individuals can
“meet” in a virtual sense – possible to meet someone halfway around the globe through an
online dating site
Similarity Theory:
similarity theory: we generally like those who are similar to us
+ allows people to have shared experiences, helps to strengthen relational identity, and
lowers the risk of breakup
assortative mating: we can choose partners based on certain traits
homogamy: we choose individuals with traits similar to ours
+ demographic similarity is important
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Dating and mate selection: first step toward family formation. + not all individuals date prior to marriage. + dating and mate selection can occur at any age and may be repeated several times throughout the life course, but are most prevalent in young adulthood. Prior to 1920, dating activities were closely regulated by parents/other family members (chaperones) and often occurred in the home of the female. + dating during this time considered serious & an indication of commitment to marriage. + dating individuals did not spend time alone together and dating was done for the purposes of showing commitment to the intent of marriage, not just for fun. Period between 1920 & 1960: golden age of courtship . Beginning 1960, as women gained more freedom, dating practices shifted a high rate of marriage and a decrease in. + traditionally, men were initiators, planners, and payers for date today, women have more of a direct role in these processes.

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